Our daily lives are so full of stress and troubles. Whatever we do kickstarts a chain of thought patterns inside our minds and compells us to give a certain reaction to a situation. It is our reaction to a situation that governs how much stressful that situation is going to be.
With time our mind learns and programs itself to give the same kind of reaction again and again resulting in ever increasing stress levels in our lives. The key to living stress free lies in reprograming our mind to give an appropriate reaction to the troublesome and complicated situations.
It is often said that if we change our reaction, which is in our hands, then we can cope up with anything in our lives. It is not as easy as it sounds. Our minds are not notebooks where we can easily rub something that is previously written and write something new. Though in another way it is much like so provided we use the right techniques.
Before going further we should take a look into how our mind works. Our mind is a complicated bunch of emotions, feelings, perceptions, belief systems that we have accumulated over time. The same set of feelings it repeats throughout our entire lives. These feelings may include love, anger, anxiety, jealousy, hatered, sorrow, despair, joy, pleasure, bliss, connection etc.
It is not inappropriate to say that it is our own feelings that hurt us. It will be more clear if we see an example. Suppose we face a situation in our life which is too demanding and requires a concentrated effort to be resolved. If we keep our mind busy in feeling emotions like anger, frustration, anxiety then it will consume most of our mental energy and our concentration will take a hit. The result would be that the situation may not be resolved and we may end up feeling even more frustrated. What would have been appropriate in such a situation is that if we would have allowed ourselves to love our true self completely, then it would have channelized all our mental energy into maximized effort. Because when we learn to love ourselves our mind automatically keeps away the emotions of frustration, anger and stress, thus saving our energy and solving the situation in hand with greater ease resulting in substantially increased satisfactory levels. How to discover our true self and how to love ourselves completely will be covered in future posts. First, our goal is to understand the working of the mind because psychology also says that knowing what the problem is covers the 75% part and solving it is merely 25% part of the picture. And if we get to know the working of our mind then we can spot the problems well.
It is a well known fact that man is a creature of habits. Whatever we do and think repeatedly over a period of time forms a series of neural pathways in our brains. The more repeatedly we do a certain action the more stronger these pathways become. These neural pathways correspond to our daily habits. The feelings that we feel repeatedly , the actions we perform daily, all our habits are result of these pathways inside our brain. The key to the solution lies in discovering that these habits (these neural pathways) are not our true selves. Our true self (who we are) is different from what we feel and do.
To keep this post simple I will end it here. In future posts I will cover more complicated issues like relationships, family, career, stress management etc.

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